[center]Here’s the deal: I’m 36, I’m an artist, and for the first time in my life I’m finally becoming “successful” in the traditional sense of the word. Meaning, I’m making good money and getting really cool opportunities to do installations and travel and live the life I always dreamed of. It’s amazing. BUT, I think I want kids. Or at least a kid. I want that creative experience too - to have a baby that comes from me. Not adopt a baby. Have a baby with my DNA. But I’ve got no man, no prospects, and again, I’m so into my life and career right now, I don’t want to redirect my energy. Damnit. What do I do?[/center]
Girlfriend! Stop worrying your pretty little head. Get in touch with a fertility doctor and freeze your eggs. STAT. This is a quandary that many totally awesome chicks in their 30’s face – just when your career is starting to bloom, your eggs are running out. Well, lucky for us we’ve got science on our side! So use it. The procedure to have your eggs extracted and frozen is not cheap (about 20 grand to extract, $120/month to freeze). But it will give you the freedom to go live your exciting artist life, travel the world, and still be able to birth your own spawn one day. From our perspective it’s a no-brainer. Get thee to a fertility doctor. Put those little ladies on ice, and when the time comes, you’ll have the option to be impregnated yourself or to use a surrogate. Have your cake and eat it too.
On the other hand, if this venture feels way out of your means, keep in mind that you cannot predict your future. There might be a time when you feel very differently about this issue. You could decide motherhood is not for you, you could find yourself pregnant at 41 (happens more than you know) or you might be struck with the number of children in this world that need homes and feel genuinely compelled to adopt.
Right now what you do know is that your life as an artist is calling you. So answer the call and go fully into all the wonderful, colorful adventures that lay in wait. All you can do is walk the path that is in front of you and trust that whatever comes or does not come your way, is exactly the destiny you were designed for. But seriously, consider putting your eggs on ice. And also consider inviting us to sexy art openings.