Here's my question. If a girl puts a guy into the friend-zone. Should he ever 'try again' or just move on?
This is one of those general questions that actually requires specific analysis. We can’t know for sure which course of action to advise unless we get some details. Who’s the guy, who’s the girl and what were the circumstances of her friend-zoning you? Since we don’t know any of these answers, here are some possibilities and their corresponding courses of action:
You started out as friends, nothing romantic has ever transpired, yet you’ve always felt you were in the friend zone: Give it a shot.
Something romantic did happen, and then she asked to just be friends: Move on.
Something happened and then fizzled with no explanation and time has passed: Try again.
She has always and continues to talk about how great a friend you are and how much she values your friendship: Move on.
Nothing has ever happened, and she is newly single: Make a play.
The friendship is important to you and your urge is probably just a desire to see her naked: Don’t fuck with it.
You’re desperately in love with her - regardless of what has or has not gone down: Go for it.
Living the Smitten life means taking risks from time-to-time and showing a little heart. It’s not our style to fearfully guard ourselves under a thick shield of armadillo armor. We believe in reaching out to what is calling us, even when it’s scary. Especially when it’s scary! So if your gut is telling you there is romantic potential with this gal, then follow it. The worst thing that could happen is that she says “no”. Well, then you got the information you need and now have closure. This means you can move on and offer your love to someone who is excited to receive it. Either way, acting with courage shows you’ve got confidence. Remember, fortune favors the bold, and confidence is the key to making panties drop. Go with that.
xoxo Ariel and Simone