I had an extremely passionate relationship with my last girlfriend (ie we had fantastic sex). After our break-up almost eight months ago I haven’t so much as kissed a woman. My sexual desire has sunk as low as it was once high, and my self-esteem has been shaken to the core. I don’t want to be a traumatized wreck when I make love to the next woman (whenever that may be!). What do you recommend? Full disclosure that I’m coming off an intense relationship or just go with the flow and hope for the best?
This is such a great & sexy question! We recommend that when the next lucky lady (you are obviously a divine lover, so she's certainly lucky) comes along, you disclose nothing. Sure, you could tell all, but why take the freshness out of this new connection by bringing up your sex life with your ex? It sullies the purity. So instead, pretend you've just risen like a phoenix from the ashes, brand new and dangerously virile. We suspect that all your male prowess will come rushing right back. Eight short months could never erase the expertise you’ve built over your lifetime.
Though since you have been on hiatus, remember that when the moment arises GO SLOW. Women LOVE a slow, sensual approach. Take the time to smell her neck and lightly kiss her behind her ear. Keep your clothes on as you unbutton her blouse. Instead of stressing about your manly member, focus your attention on her experience. Make it a game to give her tiny doses of pleasure without plunging in too fast (literally and figuratively). Don't compare her or the experience to your last love. Instead see this woman and moment as it is—brand new. That newness can be an incredible turn-on. Just take in the intimate encounter one breath at a time and FIND OUT if you are, in fact, a "traumatized wreck", or if you might actually be a brand new man. And if your body (ahem, cock) is not up for the task just breathe and tell her you got overwhelmed with her insane feline magic. Then continue to focus on giving her pleasure, in whichever way you feel compelled to give it. She'll want you even more the next time.