I'm 22 and I have a thin upper lip. Lately I can't stop obsessing about getting collagen injections to make it fuller. The procedure costs $600, which is a stretch for me. My boyfriend says he loves my lips but I really think it would make me feel more attractive, and happier. Do you think I should do it?
Oy vey. Young ladies with their "procedures"! Remember back when injections and cosmetic surgeries were just for Beverly Hills housewives and accident victims? Ah how times have changed. Before dropping your rent money straight into your pout, let's dig a little deeper into this desire.
First off, high-five to your boyfriend for seeing your natural gorgeousness! We like you dude. Now have a good long look in the mirror. Keep in mind that our features are each designed in proportion to all the other features on our face. Is it possible you are comparing your lips to a celebrity who has a totally differently proportioned face? Don't mix apples with oranges. If you exaggerate one of your features it will likely throw off the whole balance of your visage... Which can become a real rabbit hole of "fixes". Next, imagine this isn't YOUR face, but the beloved face of your best friend. Do you think she needs new lips? Or do you think she's designed just right for her journey on planet earth? Ask with innocence and as much objectivity as you can muster.
Next step: make a list of all the ways you think puffy new lips will improve your life. Every possible gain. Now review. Is it possible that you could achieve some of these gains without the injection? Is there a more sensible route? Even if it involves challenging activities like exercising more for happy endorphins, or therapy to explore some of your imprints of low self-esteem? As self-realizing women we are not just interested in quick fixes (which often don't even touch the deeper issues). We are interested in Joan of Arcing ourselves right into the belly of the beast and conquering the voice that tells us we are "not enough".
Finally ask yourself who is this really for? Not your boyfriend. Will your friends love you more? How about your family? Will your boss respect you more? Is it possible that you want to make this "improvement" for an anonymous, imaginary public made up of people that have nothing to do with your real life and who actually don’t care what you look like? Will it please magazines that can't even talk back? Get real on this.
Lastly, look into your city's children's services department and see if they need any "big sisters" for underprivileged girls. Consider putting that $600 in a piggy bank, taking on a "little sister", and spending the next year and your precious dough bringing her to museums and out for ice cream on the regular. Then one year from today check in with your craving for collagen, and if you still really want it, you've got our full support!