I live in the Toronto area and I'm 57. I've never been married and have no children (long story!). I am in pretty good shape (6.1" tall, athletic build) and I really like younger women (early 40's or even younger) Everyone says I could pass for 45. Questions...is it possible for someone my age to have a successful relationship with someone younger than me and if so, how do I find them?
Of course it’s possible for you to have a relationship with a younger woman. Anything is possible, everything is negotiable. Chemistry knows no generational limits. We have both dated older men - some just ten years older and one thirty years older - and we tend to prefer a man with some seniority. Many women do. We often seem to be more mature than our male peers, so dating up makes sense. She may not know your Star Trek references and you might be lost when she tells you “Losing My Religion” will always remind her of when Dylan and Brenda broke up, but these are surmountable differences.
We’re not sure what you mean by a “successful” relationship, but if you’re talking about monogamy and longevity, well then it’s probably best to not bind your life to someone more than 20 years your junior, as this can pose lifestyle incompatibilities. We all have different energy levels at different “seasons” of life, and as you move into your golden years she might get that mid-40’s itch to start a new career, travel the world, explore her sexuality in strange new ways and rhythms. If you want a long-term partner, you want to make sure your priorities are in sync, and major age differences can equal majorly different needs in life. Just something to keep in mind.
So if what you’re asking for is our permission to pursue a pretty young thing, you have it. We won’t think you’re a creepy old Canadian.
And like all women of all ages, you will find them anywhere and everywhere. The grocery store, the gym, the internet, out at bars, restaurants, parties and playdates. Approach, compliment, offer a kind and gentlemanly invitation that’s hard to refuse and see what unfolds.
One rule: Never lie about your age. Never ever ever. She will find out and you will then become a creepy old Canadian. Be up front and unapologetic from the start. Your age is your age. It’s super cool you’re so fit and youthful. Be proud. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
So good luck! Venture forth and devour as much nubile flesh as you like! We know we would.
xo Ariel and Simone